Sunday 25 January 2015

Dynamic You Part 2

When I am THIS excited about what I have learned, and have realised that my values are aligned to the Word....that, and accompanied by a lunch mistake of drinking REAL Coffee (not decaf), I remain wired up and sleep seems to disappear from my system for hours and hours on end.  So what do I do when I cannot sleep? I think about where I am headed, where I was and where I am now, but sometimes I dwell in a bit of mischief - yes, I am far from perfect :-)

Being subjected to an arranged marriage very early in life, and without much direction on how a husband should and shouldn't treat one, I found that inner voice of God speaking to me regularly. See, the marriage was void of love, and thus abuse quickly set in, coupled with disrespect.

The teachings from my mother, was always "Make your home don't break your home, be submissive" and whilst the concept made perfect sense to me, the circumstances in which I was supposed to be submissive didn't make sense. However I remained quiet, and listened. This is what the voice of God said to me constantly as a young bride at the tender age of eighteen "Life is meant to be lived in Joy, peace and love"

The teachings from Pastor Tomison Fashina is what I share based on my life experience as well.

The Word says:
Ephesians 5 :22-30 (AMP)

22 Wives, be subject (be submissive and adapt yourselves) to your own husbands as [a service] to the Lord.
23 For the husband is head of the wife as Christ is the Head of the church, Himself the Savior of [His] body.
24 As the church is subject to Christ, so let wives also be subject in everything to their husbands.
25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her,
26 So that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the Word,
27 That He might present the church to Himself in glorious splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such things [that she might be holy and faultless].
28 Even so husbands should love their wives as [being in a sense] their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself.
29 For no man ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and carefully protects and cherishes it, as Christ does the church,
30 Because we are members (parts) of His body.


Note, the bible says be submissive because the husband is the head, of the house. He is master, respect is warranted, but the key here, especially in 2015, ladies and gentlemen, is that the husband should be a good one! A good man to earn that respect of his wife, to earn the status of master of the house, to earn the submissiveness of his wife.

Also note the key words "Husband" and "Wife" - not "Boyfriend".  Note women, it doesn't say be submissive to your boyfriend and especially if he treats you like you are nothing or nobody, or dishes out abuse. If that happens, leave! 

Once the boyfriend is a genuine "Good" one and gives you the respect you deserve by treating you well, respecting your feelings, putting a ring on that finger of yours, and shows you love as Christ loved the church, and as he shows you that he loves himself too, then, ladies - only then ladies, is it wise to consider that boyfriend as a husband, and practice the respect part of the relationship. The submissiveness, comes in the day you say "I do". If he remains consistent, it's a real deal.

Should you notice that your Master of the house, your husband has turned rotten and was not entirely as "good" as he made himself out to be, leave!  I did - however six years and two kids later. 

At the time, I didn't care what the consequences would be, I just knew, that if someone isn't who they pretended to be, they will always revert to their old self, and no amount of counselling can fix that. When there is no love, it's no point in trying. Even if there is love, where there is no respect and where the man is always a boy, there is no point, he will never grow up and it is not for you to attempt to change him. Leave.

I still nurse a dream of the day I will be married to a man I will grow to love, for the man I love is lost on paths that isn't what God made for him, and whilst he is finding himself the hard way, I continue to grow and thrive in joy, and sooner or later, someone will appear to give that which I desire: being a good wife to a good man and creating a little piece of heaven which will be our home.

The Word is the only truth we have, and the souls that God has placed in our lives has a purpose. God's intentions for us are to prosper us and He has already made a path for us, shown us the light, yet some of us are stubborn in our own right refuse to see that path.

Ephesians 2:4-10 (AMP)
4 But God—so rich is He in His mercy! Because of and in order to satisfy the great and wonderful and intense love with which He loved us,

5 Even when we were dead (slain) by [our own] shortcomings and trespasses, He made us alive together in fellowship and in union with Christ; [He gave us the very life of Christ Himself, the same new life with which He quickened Him, for] it is by grace (His favor and mercy which you did not deserve) that you are saved ([a]delivered from judgment and made partakers of Christ’s salvation).

6 And He raised us up together with Him and made us sit down together [giving us [b]joint seating with Him] in the heavenly sphere [by virtue of our being] in Christ Jesus (the Messiah, the Anointed One).

7 He did this that He might clearly demonstrate through the ages to come the immeasurable (limitless, surpassing) riches of His free grace (His unmerited favor) in [His] kindness and goodness of heart toward us in Christ Jesus.

8 For it is by free grace (God’s unmerited favor) that you are saved ([c]delivered from judgment and made partakers of Christ’s salvation) through [your] faith. And this [salvation] is not of yourselves [of your own doing, it came not through your own striving], but it is the gift of God;

9 Not because of works [not the fulfillment of the Law’s demands], lest any man should boast. [It is not the result of what anyone can possibly do, so no one can pride himself in it or take glory to himself.]

10 For we are God’s [own] handiwork (His workmanship), [d]recreated in Christ Jesus, [born anew] that we may do those good works which God predestined (planned beforehand) for us [taking paths which He prepared ahead of time], that we should walk in them [living the good life which He prearranged and made ready for us to live].


Yet, some of us will make life miserable and difficult for ourselves by taking paths that were not prepared for us. God has made life easy for us, it is us who make life difficult for our own selves, purely because of ego or to prove a point, against God.

Be blessed today, have fun and enjoy in it all it has to offer, because yesterday has been spent, it has no value save the memories it gave you, tomorrow is a promise filled with the anointing of God and today... today is the day God is giving you NEW things, a renewed life - don't dwell in the past - make the best of this new day!




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