Saturday, 31 January 2015

Dynamic You - Part 3

Most times I wish that I had known or better yet, was taught the Word of God from the time I was a little girl. Learning the Word now, helps greatly, but it would have saved me from plenty pity parties that I often had when I was trying to raise my children as both mother and father.

Looking back, I realised that God was with me fiercely - I was protected by Him, guided by Him and loved deeply by Him. I mean, I didn't know at the time that the Word of God says that the Spirit of God lives in us and the implications thereof. When the Spirit of God lives in us, we fear nothing, we are radiant with His light, His kindness, His strength and His wisdom to differentiate between right and wrong.

I took on anything and everything to progress in career, with one goal in mind: To be able to provide for my family - a decent lifestyle, good education and peace, love and joy. I was hindered though, with anger issues from living in the flesh and not in the Spirit. Whilst I had tenacity to deal with everything, some things I couldn't deal with without getting angry, which was proving detrimental to my own career.

Now, when Pastor Tomison Fashina preached at Dynamic You,  it all made sense.

Ladies I address you specifically in this final installment of Dynamic You.

When you realise how powerful you are, you will forget to look outwardly for anything or anyone to make you complete. When the Spirit of God lives in you, you are already complete.

Pslam 139: 13-18
13 For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.15 My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.16 Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.17 How precious to me are your thoughts,[a] God! How vast is the sum of them!18 Were I to count them, they would outnumber the grains of sand— when I awake, I am still with you.

Verse 14 says, "I know that full well" that I was fearfully and wonderfully made.  This is something not all of us "know full well".  I didn't know that. I had issues of insecurity from the verbal abuse I endured. Many women I know have come from the same background. We become doubtful about who we are, because of what people say we are. But remember that their perception of you isn't the truth of who you are in the eyes of God. Choose to see yourself as God sees you!

Most times people don't realise our value - the value of women, that is. According to Scripture, Matthew 5:13-16, we are like Salt.... what does salt do to things? It adds taste, and also preserves. Women, if correctly schooled, can be more than they think they are. We are like light - infact, we are light - Let that light shine and light up the world!

Matthew 5:13-16 
Salt and Light

13 “You are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled underfoot.

14 “You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden.15 Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. 16 In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.

Women, you are Beautiful, complete and victorious. Those of us who are struggling to be free from abusive relationships, due to fears of how we will make it out there - look within ourselves and KNOW that we are more than capable to make it on our own. We don't need to find validation or acceptance from anyone who puts us down constantly. Look for what is important - or more precisely, who is more important. You!

Forget the past - it's dead and buried and if you have effectively dealt with the issues of the past, don't revisit it. If you haven't, face those demons and destroy them, for your future is bright! Tell yourself where you are going, and don't remind yourself of where you were to bring yourself down. Rid yourselves of toxic people who refuse to learn from mistakes and grow. Unless you enjoy being in relationships that consist of continuous arguing and bickering.

Know that the Alpha and Omega is in your camp! Win without apology, advance without apology. Know who you are in Christ. Always remember that before you started this journey in your life, God already declared you as a winner! Just gather the great knowledge that is the Word of God and live it!

Those were Pastor Tomison Fashina's words - Powerful indeed!

Sunday, 25 January 2015

Dynamic You Part 2

When I am THIS excited about what I have learned, and have realised that my values are aligned to the Word....that, and accompanied by a lunch mistake of drinking REAL Coffee (not decaf), I remain wired up and sleep seems to disappear from my system for hours and hours on end.  So what do I do when I cannot sleep? I think about where I am headed, where I was and where I am now, but sometimes I dwell in a bit of mischief - yes, I am far from perfect :-)

Being subjected to an arranged marriage very early in life, and without much direction on how a husband should and shouldn't treat one, I found that inner voice of God speaking to me regularly. See, the marriage was void of love, and thus abuse quickly set in, coupled with disrespect.

The teachings from my mother, was always "Make your home don't break your home, be submissive" and whilst the concept made perfect sense to me, the circumstances in which I was supposed to be submissive didn't make sense. However I remained quiet, and listened. This is what the voice of God said to me constantly as a young bride at the tender age of eighteen "Life is meant to be lived in Joy, peace and love"

The teachings from Pastor Tomison Fashina is what I share based on my life experience as well.

The Word says:
Ephesians 5 :22-30 (AMP)

22 Wives, be subject (be submissive and adapt yourselves) to your own husbands as [a service] to the Lord.
23 For the husband is head of the wife as Christ is the Head of the church, Himself the Savior of [His] body.
24 As the church is subject to Christ, so let wives also be subject in everything to their husbands.
25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her,
26 So that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the Word,
27 That He might present the church to Himself in glorious splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such things [that she might be holy and faultless].
28 Even so husbands should love their wives as [being in a sense] their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself.
29 For no man ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and carefully protects and cherishes it, as Christ does the church,
30 Because we are members (parts) of His body.

Note, the bible says be submissive because the husband is the head, of the house. He is master, respect is warranted, but the key here, especially in 2015, ladies and gentlemen, is that the husband should be a good one! A good man to earn that respect of his wife, to earn the status of master of the house, to earn the submissiveness of his wife.

Also note the key words "Husband" and "Wife" - not "Boyfriend".  Note women, it doesn't say be submissive to your boyfriend and especially if he treats you like you are nothing or nobody, or dishes out abuse. If that happens, leave! 

Once the boyfriend is a genuine "Good" one and gives you the respect you deserve by treating you well, respecting your feelings, putting a ring on that finger of yours, and shows you love as Christ loved the church, and as he shows you that he loves himself too, then, ladies - only then ladies, is it wise to consider that boyfriend as a husband, and practice the respect part of the relationship. The submissiveness, comes in the day you say "I do". If he remains consistent, it's a real deal.

Should you notice that your Master of the house, your husband has turned rotten and was not entirely as "good" as he made himself out to be, leave!  I did - however six years and two kids later. 

At the time, I didn't care what the consequences would be, I just knew, that if someone isn't who they pretended to be, they will always revert to their old self, and no amount of counselling can fix that. When there is no love, it's no point in trying. Even if there is love, where there is no respect and where the man is always a boy, there is no point, he will never grow up and it is not for you to attempt to change him. Leave.

I still nurse a dream of the day I will be married to a man I will grow to love, for the man I love is lost on paths that isn't what God made for him, and whilst he is finding himself the hard way, I continue to grow and thrive in joy, and sooner or later, someone will appear to give that which I desire: being a good wife to a good man and creating a little piece of heaven which will be our home.

The Word is the only truth we have, and the souls that God has placed in our lives has a purpose. God's intentions for us are to prosper us and He has already made a path for us, shown us the light, yet some of us are stubborn in our own right refuse to see that path.

Ephesians 2:4-10 (AMP)
4 But God—so rich is He in His mercy! Because of and in order to satisfy the great and wonderful and intense love with which He loved us,

5 Even when we were dead (slain) by [our own] shortcomings and trespasses, He made us alive together in fellowship and in union with Christ; [He gave us the very life of Christ Himself, the same new life with which He quickened Him, for] it is by grace (His favor and mercy which you did not deserve) that you are saved ([a]delivered from judgment and made partakers of Christ’s salvation).

6 And He raised us up together with Him and made us sit down together [giving us [b]joint seating with Him] in the heavenly sphere [by virtue of our being] in Christ Jesus (the Messiah, the Anointed One).

7 He did this that He might clearly demonstrate through the ages to come the immeasurable (limitless, surpassing) riches of His free grace (His unmerited favor) in [His] kindness and goodness of heart toward us in Christ Jesus.

8 For it is by free grace (God’s unmerited favor) that you are saved ([c]delivered from judgment and made partakers of Christ’s salvation) through [your] faith. And this [salvation] is not of yourselves [of your own doing, it came not through your own striving], but it is the gift of God;

9 Not because of works [not the fulfillment of the Law’s demands], lest any man should boast. [It is not the result of what anyone can possibly do, so no one can pride himself in it or take glory to himself.]

10 For we are God’s [own] handiwork (His workmanship), [d]recreated in Christ Jesus, [born anew] that we may do those good works which God predestined (planned beforehand) for us [taking paths which He prepared ahead of time], that we should walk in them [living the good life which He prearranged and made ready for us to live].

Yet, some of us will make life miserable and difficult for ourselves by taking paths that were not prepared for us. God has made life easy for us, it is us who make life difficult for our own selves, purely because of ego or to prove a point, against God.

Be blessed today, have fun and enjoy in it all it has to offer, because yesterday has been spent, it has no value save the memories it gave you, tomorrow is a promise filled with the anointing of God and today... today is the day God is giving you NEW things, a renewed life - don't dwell in the past - make the best of this new day!

"Superman" - 2015 The Year of Triumph

The great thing about being part of a Church, is where worship not only raises your spirits but also makes you sing the WORD. One such song is "Superman"

This song was written from scripture from Genesis to Revelations - Thankfully, being part of a WhatsApp Cell Group, makes such things easily accessible to share to as many people as possible.

I am quite amped from this afternoon's meeting, and whilst I will be sharing the meatier parts of the Conference next week, I want to share this song (lyrics) for now - Enjoy :-)

Phi 4:13
13 I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.

1Co 3:16
16 Know ye not that ye are the temple of God, and that the Spirit of God dwelleth in you?


3Jo 1:2
2 Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth.

2Co 5:7
7 (For we walk by faith, not by sight:)

Zch 4:6
6 Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the Lord unto Zerubbabel, saying,
Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit,
saith the Lord of hosts.


2Co 5:17
17 Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature:old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.

Gal 3:29
29 And if ye be Christ's, then are ye Abraham's seed, and heirs according to the promise.

2Co 5:20
20 Now then we are ambassadors for Christ, as though God did beseech you by us:we pray you in Christ's stead, be ye reconciled to God.

Rom 8:17
17 And if children, then heirs; heirs of God, and joint- heirs with Christ; if so be that we suffer with him, that we may be also glorified together.
2Co 5:21
21 For he hath made him to be sin for us, who knew no sin; that we might be made the righteousness of God in him.

Psa 139:14
14 I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made:
marvellous are thy works;
and that my soul knoweth right well.

Psa 16:6
6 The lines are fallen unto me in pleasant places;
yea, I have a goodly heritage.



Isa 40:31
31 But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength;
they shall mount up with wings as eagles;
they shall run, and not be weary;
and they shall walk, and not faint.

Saturday, 24 January 2015

Dynamic You!

Part 1 of ... (perhaps many) :-)

For as long as I can remember, I have been a certain way, where my belief system, or shall I say my value system has been different to that of my surroundings and my upbringing. See, I grew up in an orthodox Hindu home, but with only women. There was no men in our lives. No granddad, no dad, no brothers. My mother perpetually grew angry with my father who had abandoned us, but I loved him so very much until the age of eight, when I began to despise him for also not being around much - however inspite of that, I had this ideology of how a married couple should be, how a woman ought to be and what her role should be in the marriage. I didn't know where it all came from, but now being a newly Born Again for the third time in sixteen years, I am learning more about the Word of God now, than to indulge people on debates as to whether or not God exists.

There is also the receiving of the Holy Spirit within me, and understanding that Christ lives IN ME!

Today, was a brilliant womens conference at the Christ Embassy Church where I realised something important. The guiding voice that has been with me since I was a little girl, was indeed God Himself. Every time during my adult years, when I read spiritual books, I became overwhelmed because although I was never taught certain things, I always practised it for example:

1. Letting those who wronged me, be handled by the Hand of God, rather than taking legal action, or revenge for that matter.

1 Corinthians 7  (NIV)

The very fact that you have lawsuits among you means you have been completely defeated already. Why not rather be wronged? Why not rather be cheated?

When I was divorced, I didn't fight for anything, except my freedom. I didn't care about the money, the house or the cars. I walked out with a very unfair agreement, and worked two to three jobs to raise my kids and take care of my mother. In recent times, the man whose hands deprived me, ended up providing in our time of need, without any complaints. A blessing after 20 yrs.

However I was not without sin in the last year (August 2013 - August 2014) Terrible things happened since 2008, and I didn't realise that Born Agains are always under attack, and our only weapon is the Word of God and understanding how to use it to protect ourselves. I was lost, but thankfully, God being faithful as ever, reached out to me, and I have not looked back since!

2. Being a woman who looked within at her own abilities to raise her children, than to look for a man who had loads of money to look after me. As time went by, I became more of that woman God encouraged me to be, and I didn't know if I was on the right track, but Proverbs 31: 10-31 says it beautifully and now, makes me feel confident.

Proverbs 31:10-31 (AMP)

10 A capable, intelligent, and [b]virtuous woman—who is he who can find her? She is far more precious than jewels and her value is far above rubies or pearls.

11 The heart of her husband trusts in her confidently and relies on and believes in her securely, so that he has no lack of [honest] gain or need of [dishonest] spoil.

12 She comforts, encourages, and does him only good as long as there is life within her.

13 She seeks out wool and flax and works with willing hands [to develop it].

14 She is like the merchant ships loaded with foodstuffs; she brings her household’s food from a far [country].

15 She rises while it is yet night and gets [spiritual] food for her household and assigns her maids their tasks.

16 She considers a [new] field before she buys or accepts it [expanding prudently and not courting neglect of her present duties by assuming other duties]; with her savings [of time and strength] she plants fruitful vines in her vineyard.

17 She girds herself with strength [spiritual, mental, and physical fitness for her God-given task] and makes her arms strong and firm.

18 She tastes and sees that her gain from work [with and for God] is good; her lamp goes not out, but it burns on continually through the night [of trouble, privation, or sorrow, warning away fear, doubt, and distrust].

19 She lays her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.

20 She opens her hand to the poor, yes, she reaches out her filled hands to the needy [whether in body, mind, or spirit].

21 She fears not the snow for her family, for all her household are doubly clothed in scarlet.

22 She makes for herself coverlets, cushions, and rugs of tapestry. Her clothing is of linen, pure and fine, and of purple [such as that of which the clothing of the priests and the hallowed cloths of the temple were made].

23 Her husband is known in the [city’s] gates, when he sits among the elders of the land.

24 She makes fine linen garments and leads others to buy them; she delivers to the merchants girdles [or sashes that free one up for service].

25 Strength and dignity are her clothing and her position is strong and secure; she rejoices over the future [the latter day or time to come, knowing that she and her family are in readiness for it]!

26 She opens her mouth in skillful and godly Wisdom, and on her tongue is the law of kindness [giving counsel and instruction].

27 She looks well to how things go in her household, and the bread of idleness (gossip, discontent, and self-pity) she will not eat.

28 Her children rise up and call her blessed (happy, fortunate, and to be envied); and her husband boasts of and praises her, [saying],

29 [c]Many daughters have done virtuously, nobly, and well [with the strength of character that is steadfast in goodness], but you excel them all.

30 Charm and grace are deceptive, and beauty is vain [because it is not lasting], but a woman who reverently and worshipfully fears the Lord, she shall be praised!

31 Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her own works praise her in the gates [of the city]!

A woman should be self sufficient, and not stress out her husband for every want or whim. That capability creates so much peace, harmony and love between two souls that share their lives together, there is no pressure, no strife or resentment.

There is so much more to share, and right now, I will leave readers with these two points and will share more next week.

The important thing to remember, is that all of us are Dynamic - When God's angel approached Gideon as the chosen one to defeat the Midianites, (Judges 6) he doubted himself so much, and not for one moment, did he see himself as GOD saw him - Brave, capable and courageous. We all suffer from that lack of self confidence. Let us be reminded that we should see ourselves as God sees us! Wonderfully, and fearfully made :-)  Then, let all praise be to God for creating us so marvelously :-)